A great portion of men find approaching women they like to be very frustrating, especially when there’s the intention of scoring a date. Now there are many tips on how to approach women, but some men still seem to hit more mistakes than jackpots. There are many obvious, and at the same time unnoticed, things that can turn men from random people into creepy strangers; these are things that you might have done several times already.
No Eye Contact.
First things first. It’s okay for males to be shy, but not so shy that he won’t even look the woman in the eye while talking. Their eyes tend to stray away from a woman they are attracted to in an attempt to hide a possible blush or excitement. Although the intentions are nice, the impression isn’t very good. The woman you are approaching will either think that you are falsely interested in her or consider you annoying. Any person would prefer an acknowledgment of understanding while conversing, and eye contact is vital for that.
A woman can sense hesitation, second thoughts and nervousness. Yes, they do. Hesitating is a mistake that most men make when they try to approach a woman they like. Not being one-minded about the decision to say Hi causes the next stumbles in introducing yourself. When you are half-minded or half-hearted about the approach you tend to fumble on introductions and forget these important things:
- Your name.
- Offering to shake hands.
- Asking her name.
- Moving on to a conversation or topic after introductions.
- Excusing yourself when things go wrong or stale.
If you have read several books or checked out simple guides on how to approach women, you’ll find that they revolve around having the right amount of confidence.
Eye contact is important, it has been said countless times on many tips on how to meet women. It’s not only a sign of being interested, it’s also an assurance that your intentions are pure and your eyes are not stuck elsewhere. One of the biggest mistakes men make when approaching women is staring too long at her. The action comes off as creepy and, unfortunately for some men, the staring doesn’t just involve mental pictures of the face but also of the breasts. That kind of staring would readily end what you have not even planned to start yet.
Advices on how to talk to women suggest that men should be confident enough to come over and say Hi. But some of them overdo this and becomes cocky instead of attractive for women. Among the many things an overconfident man does when approaching women are:
- Being too close
- Giving lingering touches or being touchy.
- Flirting immediately or showing sexual attraction early.
- Asking personal questions.
- Undermining her skills, career, beliefs, etc.
These things make women uncomfortable. Based on observation, men get the confidence from drinking alcohol which sadly provides the wrong amount of it. What happens next is ultimately difficult to correct; men come off too strongly or too persistent and the approach becomes an eerie experience for women.
It is never good to assume about someone. Whether it’s her personality, your conversations, or how the acquaintance is going, making assumptions about these can change your approach and jeopardize whatever chances you have. This usually happens when you are drunk or influenced by alcohol. Keeping your ego in check wouldn’t be so bad either as it could lead to unfounded assumptions. Here are the top things you might have assumed and should definitely steer clear off.
- Expecting her to have the same level of interest in you as you are interested in her.
- Assuming she’s single just because she looks single.
- Thinking that because she is easy to talk to, she will easily agree to anything you suggest.
- Assuming she likes you because she smiled at your jokes.
- Assuming that you can get into her pants by the end of the night.
Asking Questions. A LOT.
One of the most difficult things about trying to get to know a woman is asking the right questions. In truth, asking some things in order to get to know her is the ideal way on how to approach women. What makes it go awry is that men ask too many different things on too many different topics; as an attempt to get the conversation going. You are probably asking too many things without giving it interest. Don’t ask questions that you won’t follow-up on, you shouldn’t ask for the sake of talking, give the topic a chance to progress. The impression is that you are impatient and has no statement or interest of your own.
These mistakes are not noticeable for most males, mainly because their focus is so intent that everything else is blurred off. A final piece of advice is to keep a level head when approaching women, it will help you take control of your emotions and thoughts. Be as natural as you can be and never overdo your approach, otherwise you could be un-impressionable or unforgettable in a bad way.